When I was little, being the oldest, I took on a lot of responsibilities from my parents that didn't belong to me. I tried to take on complex adult emotional dynamics so that I could prove that I was worthy of being loved.

You see, I didn't know that what I was doing wasn’t my job. My job was to be a kid. 

But, as I grew older, I expanded my tendency to take care of others to include my siblings, my friends and when I was older, to my boyfriends. 

I didn't have any boundaries and I didn't even know what my needs were because I had always ignored them and pushed them aside. 

I had learned as a child that my needs weren't important to my parents, so why would they be to anyone else?  How could I understand that?

You see people pleasers begin as parent pleasers. 

Does this sound familiar?

More often than not, parents of people pleasing children are not emotionally mature enough to separate out their personal drama in order to take care of their children properly: mentally, emotionally, physically, energetically and spiritually.

BUT as a child - you have ONE GOAL - all you want is to be loved and feel safe. 

Can you relate?

If you’ve always been a people pleaser, maybe it used to make you feel so happy whenever you helped someone or did something for someone, but now you feel nothing… 

• Maybe you can't stand doing anything for anyone anymore, but you can’t stop because that's all you’ve done your whole life. 

• Maybe it's never been about you…

• Maybe it’s not that you don't want to help people, because you do, but maybe you’d love to help yourself too…

Maybe you’d love to have that happy self, back again…

BUT here's the thing…

You know when you’re on the brink of a major life change, you get this queasy feeling in the pit of your stomach and you can’t catch your breath, it feels icky doesn’t it…

You DESERVE to be happy and fulfilled! This means to be fulfilled in your life, at home, at work AND in your family. 

Imagine a month from now, 6 months from now, 10 years from now... What could your life LOOK like?  FEEL like?  Could it actually feel like what you've always dreamed it could be?

DARE yourself to imagine what your dream life could look like for you!

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