It's Not You, It's Your Boundaries

The women I work with are always relieved to hear that. They feel like they are doing everything right, and not seeing any results.

That's because you don't have any experience setting boundaries, so you don't feel confident.  So instead of investing in more therapy hoping that you'll find confidence there, just start working with your goals and own the fact that you're just starting out and that you are new to this way of living, but that doesn't mean that you don't know what you're doing, it just means that you're new to setting healthy boundaries with your family, friends or colleagues.  

So essentially, nothing you have done so far is working because you're just getting started. Let's not attach any more meaning to it. 

The truth is, at one time you may not have felt safe maintaining certain boundaries. Instead, you may have learned it was safer to do what other people wanted and take care of their needs first because, by people-pleasing, you make yourself likable, and therefore you feel safe and loved.

It's time to change that.

Are you too kind and always put other people before yourself? If you’re like me, people-pleasing has run havoc in your life. 

It has robbed you of peace of mind, personal empowerment and the courage to follow your dreams and goals. 

It has crushed your spirit repeatedly. 

It has hit you while you’re down and dragged you through the dirt. 

It might have also contributed to chronic emotional and physical issues in your life.

What people don't realize is that excessive people-pleasing has the potential for many negative and hidden consequences.

People pleasers may spend so much time trying to please others that they don't know what to do with themselves - if there's no one asking them for something. 

Here's the thing: Constant people-pleasing behavior can lead to a lack of self-care and boundaries. 

Constantly devoting yourself to meeting the needs of others can cause you to neglect your own.

At some point or another, we have all struggled with people-pleasing. After all, as social creatures, we are prone to peer pressure and the desire to fit in. 

But there is a BIG difference between the desire for acceptance and people-pleasing. 

People-pleasing is not just a once-in-awhile occurrence: it’s a daily struggle. 

Maybe you transform yourself into being nice all the time…

Or maybe you apologize or accept fault when you aren’t to blame…

Or maybe you have weak boundaries so people may refuse to respect or entirely ignore your boundaries because they know you’ll do what they want anyway.

Or maybe arguments and conflict upset you because your goal is to keep people happy around you at all times so that you can feel happy too …so you struggle with authenticity. 

As we enter the fall season it always reminds us to start afresh - getting back to normal after the summer season, starting new routines.  

What's more important than really getting in tune with yourself and identifying where you need to set healthy boundaries and learn to uphold them without the guilt and depleting your energy.

If you’ve hit a wall and you're ready for a change, I have good news! The 4-week Better Boundary Bootcamp® is now open for enrollment.

 We're Covering

• Setting yourself up for success, assessing your boundary setting habits, and tracking progress.

• Learning how to implement firm healthy boundaries in a way that supports your personality style, without guilt and overwhelm.

• How to say NO in a way that is kind without the need to overexplain that supports your concern for the rest of the family.

• Real life practical strategies for getting in touch with your true feelings to support expressing your needs in the moment and make releasing your people-pleasing habits easy, without having to give up your personal time or tossing and turning all night.

• How to implement actually do-able stress management techniques, without having to take a day off to go to the spa or quit doing the things you love. These are the exact same strategies I use myself.

This Bootcamp IS for You if...

• You no longer want to be fearful of saying no.

• You're done with being overworked, exhausted, overbooked, and burned out trying to take care of others.

• You have no free time for yourself and you don't know how to put yourself first without the guilt.

• You’re done feeling helpless, frustrated, lost, afraid and very unhappy with your life.

• You’re done being stuck in relationships where you give more than you get.

• You're done living with self-doubt and being needy for the approval of others.

• You're done with being preoccupied about what others think and feel.

• You're tired of trying things that don’t work

• You have a habit of helping others who need it without stopping to consider the cost to me.

Get Results Like These Ladies

 The Better Boundary Bootcamp is for you if you desire...

✔ A personal transformation, addressing physical, emotional and energetic health in order to set clear healthy boundaries.

✔ A qualified mentor who holds the attention to mindset, self-care, and self-love and the expertise of helping you through your struggles and process.

✔ Access to Joanne's input whenever you need it so you feel confident moving forward, get clear on what’s holding you back, and always know your next step without confusion or overwhelm.

✔ A flexible methodology to finally break free from a lack of healthy boundaries once and for all.  No guilt or overwhelm, but instead your own unique lifestyle plan, which will be fulfilling, enjoyable and give you long term results.

✔ Support and accountability and you're committed to change even though the road to success is windy.

✔ A proven system that works and you’re ready to do the work with compassion for yourself.

Unlike traditional programs, the Better Boundary Bootcamp doesn't require hours of therapy or complicated rules. 

Instead, the real and lasting results come from mastering your emotions and connecting to your feelings in the moment so that you can, not only finally set boundaries for good, but also feel confident, courageous, and motivated no matter what you face in a relationship.

Because you want to know how to …

• Set yourself up for success, assessing your boundary setting habits, and tracking progress.

• Implement firm healthy boundaries in a way that supports your personality style, without guilt and overwhelm.

• Say NO in a way that is kind without the need to overexplain that supports your concern for the rest of the family.

• Get real life practical strategies for getting in touch with your true feelings to support expressing your needs in the moment and make releasing your people-pleasing habits easy, without having to give up your personal time or tossing and turning all night.

• Implement actually do-able stress management techniques, without having to take a day off to go to the spa or quit doing the things you love. These are the exact same strategies I use myself.

FAQs

Will you help me with my personal issues with boundaries?

My team, the community, and I are here to support you throughout your journey.

Our community is a judgment-free zone and we are only available for words of encouragement and love. We are here to support your growth in which way you need it. We see your potential and we will provide you with the tools so you can see it too.

Our goal is to give you the tools to set firm healthy boundaries in your life without feeling guilty about having more freedom, more time for yourself, more career results, more transformation, more authenticity, more joy…allowing you to make your dreams come true, without endless suffering.

I hope you choose to see what is possible for you and commit to creating it for yourself without the suffering, because the suffering and overwhelm are optional, not mandatory. 

There is a deep connection between setting firm healthy boundaries and living authentically in our society. 

It’s sacred. 

Sure, there are plenty of people who live mediocre lives and are unhappy, but that’s a choice. Just like wanting more and creating more for yourself is also a choice.

One that I hope you make. 

Instead of spending your day unsure how to break your people-pleasing habit or feeling guilty, fearful, or insecure about prioritizing yourself over others, I’ll show you the concepts of setting healthy boundaries that last and HOW to fully implement and integrate them into your life.  

BUT you'll need to bring your courage to shift your mindset. It can be small to begin. If you’re coachable and ready and open to change, you’re good!

Can you help me if I am working with another practitioner or therapist? Will it interfere with any progress that I've made?

Great question! Any work you have already done with someone else is gold.  It will definitely help you to get even better results.  

We’re NOT going to spend any time on addressing the REAL problem of your people-pleasing tendencies, which is the root cause of people-pleasing in the BETTER BOUNDARY BOOTCAMP.

That’s for The Take Your Place Method where we'll address, reprogram your mindset, and release the people-pleasing trauma response from your childhood. 

However, our clients find that working out their personal struggles they may be currently having with boundaries by reprogramming their mindset is the KEY to figuring out their trauma response triggers. So, you’ll be making progress on it, even though we won’t cover it directly.

In full transparency... I WANT you to continue with us in The Take Your Place Method program! 

To begin, though, let’s focus on your intentions and goals, while learning how to set firm healthy boundaries, and how YOU want to establish your relationships on your own terms. That’s what you’re gonna get DONE.

Will this work for me?

This works best if you’re a greatly motivated woman, who wants to live authentically and is coachable and willing to ask for support and accountability.

You’re committed even though the road to success and results isn’t straight.

You’re ready and motivated to do the work with compassion and patience for yourself and focus on the proven system that works.  

We’re going to work quickly. If you’re the kind of person who has to process everything for a while before making a move, this might make you a little nutty.

But if you can handle a little flying by the seat of your pants, we’re going to get this DONE.

And then, shifts. will. happen. Not to be dramatic, but the ability to set and implement firm healthy boundaries in your life and relationships, whether it be within your family, your partner, your friendships or at work, is going to change things for you forever.

I’m afraid of repercussions like people being upset or angry with me, and feeling like I did something wrong. Will this work for me?

Yes. Many of our clients work with us to call in their new, upleveled Self.  And yes, your people may react, but I’m here to teach you how to set healthy boundaries in a way that aligns with your life so that you don’t end up feeling like you are unkind.

I’m extra excited about the change in people-pleasing women who are ready and motivated to move into even deeper work and break away from old paradigms and create a new family legacy. 

These ladies totally understand how necessary “cleaning up their sh*t,” is, and readily step forward to invest in themselves to boldly step up to live as their authentic self.

Remember if you want something different for yourself, you have to start moving differently. Old keys don’t open new doors…

It's time. Step up, take the leap, do the work.

The Better Boundary Bootcamp® is currently closed for enrollment until 2023.  
In the meantime, if you feel aligned to work with me through this series, I invite you to sign up for the Waitlist to be the first to be notified when the next session opens up for enrollment.

Keep in mind that places are limited to 10 motivated women who are ready for change in their lives. 

The program starts Monday September 19th, 2022.